Every semi-self aware human lives with an ongoing aprehension that the projection one gives about one's self to others is not entirely truthful and a forboding fear of being called out and discovered as a fraud. This gives rise to those little white lies that build up over time which, all too often, result in a sociopath who starts believing the self-decption or a self-loathing individual when the exaggerated expectations of one's self seem impossible to live up to. People lie to themselves first before they lie to others. It makes us all alone in our individual bodies and builds a dangerous barrier to true relationships. At its worse it is a vicious cycle where the sociopaths become dangerous to everyone they run across whlie the self loathers are even more dangerous to those who are so unfortunate as to love them.
Most people fall within some reasonable standard deviation (there's a nice pun!) between these two extremes. Occassionally events or persons come into our lives that benefit us in some manner in which we do not feel worthy. It might be plain stupid luck, someone seemingly "out of our league" may be attracted to us, or some person far in advance of us socially, professionally, or economically might decide they see some potential in us that we can't imagine we have or - worse yet - that we fear we've projected in an exaggerated fashion and therefore might get found out if we accept this opportunity as presented. Often we sabatoge these opportunities and relationships so we won't be "found out" - just to play it safe.
But opportunities such as this are not there to shine the light of truth on our faillings. They are there to give us a chance to finally live up to our dreams and ambitions. Those reaching out to help are not looking for your failure but to share in the joy of overcoming your fears and reaching success. We may be blessed with good genetics and be particularly beautiful or intelligent - things that cannot be earned or shared that give one an "unfair" advantage over those not so fortunate. How should we feel about this? Accepting an oppportunity or a selfless act of love imposes no obligation upon us other than an honest acceptance and acklowledgement of the gift. More often than not these are gifts we can never hope to repay in our lifetimes but this is not what our benefactors, whether they be God, nature, or another fellow human are looking for.
All of the successful (by whatever measure they use to define their success) and happy people I have ever met have been in the above situation at least once in their lives. I know I have as some of my prior and future writings reveal. The difference between those who pursue their self fulfilling proephecy of failure pushing themselves towards one of the two outlying extremes versus those who accept such opportunities for what they are - win or lose - is that they accepted this as a challenge to be worthy. To be the change or vision that they have projected, or at least get a little closer to making it a reality.
Because it's more about the direction than the destination. It is our nature as humans to always strive for more as we improve ourselves. And this is a good thing. So when something unimaginably good comes into our lives that we can never repay and feel that there are so many others more deserving than ourselves - do not reject it. Do not demand another explanation when the simple one does not seem sufficient. Accept it whole heartedly and promise yourself to do everything you can to be worthy of this gift. That leads to the best revelations that life has to offer.Share on Twitter Share on Facebook